The Gendered Violence of Systems

Reporting Gender-Based Violence Is a Trauma of Its Own Most people imagine that reporting gender-based violence is a straightforward act,  you go to the police, you tell the truth, and the system takes over. But for survivors, the reality is brutally different. Reporting GBV becomes a secondary form of trauma, layered on top of the...

Motivation In Relapse

Why Motivation Alone Does Not Prevent Relapse Motivation is often treated as the fuel that keeps recovery alive. People talk about wanting it badly enough, staying inspired, and remembering what is at stake. Early recovery is usually full of motivation because consequences are fresh and fear is still close. This creates the illusion that motivation...

Why “I’ll Just Stop” Is the Most Dangerous Plan of All

There is a common belief among people struggling with addiction that stopping is simply a matter of deciding to stop. It’s an idea shaped by pride, denial, fear of treatment, or the belief that only “serious addicts” need help. This belief forms the foundation of what can only be called the detox fantasy: the idea...

When Addiction Makes You a Stranger

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of addiction is not the chaos, the lies, the financial mess, or even the physical decline, but the slow and almost unrecognisable shift in personality that takes place long before families realise what is happening. People often think addiction shows itself through behaviour, staying out late, isolating, losing interest...

The Invisible Pull of Old Identities

One of the strongest relapse cues is people, not because they encourage the behaviour, but because they represent the version of yourself that once used. Addiction is social. It lives inside friend groups, habits, jokes, rituals, shared secrets, and shared energy. When someone in recovery encounters a person from their using life, the brain reacts...

The Fear of Feeling,  Why Numbness Feels Safer Than Happiness

There’s a quiet kind of addiction that doesn’t come in bottles or needles. It’s the addiction to numbness, to not feeling. It hides in busy schedules, endless scrolling, emotional detachment, and even in the relentless pursuit of “being fine.” It’s what happens when pain becomes too familiar to let go of, and happiness starts to...

The Addicted Caregiver,  When Helping Others Becomes a Way to Avoid Yourself

[full-featured-image] There’s a strange kind of addiction that doesn’t smell like alcohol, doesn’t snort like cocaine, and doesn’t leave a paper trail of bets or empty bottles. It’s the addiction to helping, the quiet, socially acceptable drug of choice for people who can’t sit with their own pain. It hides behind compassion, moral superiority, and...

CBD Oil: What You Need to Know

The cannabis plant and its derivatives have been subjects of much confusion and debate. Terms like hemp, cannabidiol (CBD), marijuana, and tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) are often used interchangeably, but they refer to different substances with distinct properties and legal statuses. As CBD products gain popularity, understanding the differences and implications is crucial. What is CBD? Cannabinoids...

The Five Biggest Gifts of Sobriety

For those feeling trapped in the grip of addiction, the idea of sobriety can seem like a distant dream. Addiction can wreak havoc on relationships, finances, and self-esteem, creating a painful cycle that’s hard to break. But amidst the darkness of addiction, there is hope. Sobriety brings with it numerous gifts that can transform lives,...

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